My husband surprised me last week when he informed me that he would like to participate in something called "domestic discipline." I knew he was a bottom, liked to be spanked, and liked to be overpowered sexually. However, he is not a weak man. He is very sharp witted and sharp tongued. He has been verbally and emotionally abusive, lazy, and neglectful in the past. I thought he was set in his ways. I had contemplated leaving many, many, many times.

I was completely thrown off course by his request. The husband and I are blissful at times and volatile during others. We've fired insults back and forth and have almost come to blows. We stopped short of physical altercations knowing that it would be the end of us. He sent me an email detailing his desire for this relationship. I approached it with him like wading into a waist-high pool of tears. He has not made marrying him easy for me. I went into detail of every infraction he would have to pay for and never repeat. I don't know if he understands still what he's done, but that's what discipline is for.

We are now in a FLR ( Female Led Relationship). We employ Domestic Discipline. We have a contract with rules and expectations. We both signed it and we are both to adhere to the expectations. Basically, he is to do everything that I say, and I am to discipline him if he doesn't.

Discipline includes, but is not limited to standing in a corner and spanking.

He got his first spanking the other day. He was whining because I told him he couldn't jack off. I beat his ass with my pink hair brush until it was a glowing, painful, hot, red. Afterwards, he stood in a corner with his pants down. It was hard at first because I am not naturally prone to violence, but this was his request. This is something that he wanted. That he needed. I felt like I had relieved some pressure in our relationship and like I had control back. I was a Queen. I am his universe. He will never dare to insult me to get his way ever again.

He is a different man. He is sweet, attentive, giving, and loving. He only wishes to please me. His face is so peaceful and joyful now. I don't fully understand this yet, but it is beautiful to see the misery replaced by nothing but serenity and happiness.

We have both have a newfound confidence in our marriage because of this and although there is still a learning curve, DD has eliminated so many of our problems.